Here’s The Secret To Making Your Marriage Last – Video Panel for Your Tango

So pleased to be a part of this panel on long-term relationship success. Empathy, gratitude and making a relationship a priority are well-known elements of making your marriage last. When cultivating connection and intimacy, think of building a bridge between you and your partner, to help you both feel understood, safe, and connected.

There’s no question that all relationships take work. Even though it’s a really hard thing to hear, we sometimes have to realize that simply loving someone isn’t enough to make a marriage last. You could care for someone with all of your heart and still have issues in your marriage that you wished you could work out without rocking the boat. What makes matters worse is that according to recent studies, a whooping fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. With the divorce statistics stacked up so high, it makes us wonder if there really are ways to make our relationships work.

Hearing Human Behavior Researcher Dr. Helen Fisher, along with Senior VP Melanie Gorman, Therapist SaraKay Smullens, Relationship Retreat Guide Mary Ellen Goggin and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alicia H. Clark talk about different reasons why so many couples call it quits was like a wakeup call. At the end of the day, we all just want to be understood. When conducting brain scanning studies of people who were in love long term (and married for at least 21 years), Dr. Helen fisher found activity in a brain region linked with empathy and controlling your emotions. Instead of fighting over the little things, force yourself to question whether that argument is really worth it. You have to be willing to work on your relationship together in order to be happy.

Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/2014230197/secret-making-your-marriage-last-video#ixzz3FmrWLXRB