7 Ways To Kick Anger Out Of Your Relationship For Good – Your Tango, PsychCentral

Too much fighting in your relationship? Empathy is the antidote to anger!

“Love is not a contract between two narcissists. It’s more than that. It’s a construction that compels the participants to go beyond narcissism. In order that love lasts one has to reinvent oneself.” -French Philosopher Alain Badiou

Resentment and anger in relationships often stem from utter dismay at how your spouse could have possibly done what they did. You just can’t understand it—you never would have done such a thing. Here are a few scenarios as examples:

• For months on end, he was supposed to close a business bank account that was charging enormous fees and that he wasn’t even using anymore. There was always some excuse, and meanwhile, hundreds of dollars were going to waste.
• You’ve asked her countless times to please only play radio stations with upbeat music in the morning. But morning after morning, she keeps putting on the classical music station, which you’ve told her makes you feel like you should go back to sleep. How can she always seemingly forget your request?

The above situations are representative of the mundane resentments in life that lead to overriding marital problems when not handled with effective communication. Left unchecked over time, resentment will lead to anger in relationships, which takes enormous emotional resources to undo. Better to deal with resentment than let it spiral out of control.

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Update November 30, 2014:

Very pleased to have this piece picked up by PsychCentral, and retitled, The 7 Best Tips for Handling Anger and Resentment in Relationships.

By Dr. Alicia H. Clark • 3 min read. Couples. Too much fighting in your relationship? Empathy is the antidote to anger! “Love is not a contract between two …Continue reading…

Update December 30, 2014:

The piece on PsychCentral was further syndicated to Aspen Counseling Services Blog