Huffington Post – 10 Signs Your Relationship Is All Wrong For You – Huffington Post
How can you tell when a relationship is all wrong?
It sometimes so isn’t easy, especially when there are things we we really love about our partner and our relationship. It can be hard to know from the inside if we are in the right relationship, and when things aren’t feeling right, it can be even harder to face the truth. I was asked by Brittany Wong for the Huffington Post to weigh in on top indicators of when a relationship is all wrong for you, and was very pleased to help on this great article.
Your partner is your harshest critic.
Your partner should be your ride-or-die bestie, your partner in crime and your biggest cheerleader all rolled into one. If moral support is in short supply or if nitpicking and criticism are constants in the relationship, it’s a very troubling sign, said Alicia H. Clark, a Washington D.C.-based psychologist.
“It’s one thing to tolerate playful teasing and pokes, but it’s another when jokes are seemingly always at your expense and criticism feels incessant, even when your family and friends are around,” she said. “This is closer to bullying than it is to playful good fun. It’s a signal that your partner doesn’t have your best interests at heart.”
You’re constantly wondering why your partner’s behavior doesn’t match up with his or her words.
Figuring out where your S.O. was on Saturday night shouldn’t be as difficult to crack as an episode of “Dateline: Real Life Mysteries.” If you’re often wondering what your partner is up to when you’re not around — or he always seems to be telling some half-truth — you may want to ask yourself if the relationship is really worth the worry, said Clark.
“Inconsistencies between behavior and words are common sign of a troubled relationship,” she said. “While it can be tempting to listen to words that often convey what we want to hear, listening to behavior is where you’ll hear the truth. Even if it is painful, behavior seldom lies.”
You’ve felt more insecure since you’ve been in the relationship.
Your self-worth should in no way be tied to your partner’s opinion of you or your relationship status; your worth as a person comes from inside. That said, if your partner makes you feel unloveable or unsure of yourself to the point of anxiety, you need to address the issue, said Clark.
“Dating the wrong person can drive up your anxiety and self-doubt,” she said. “The right relationship, on the other hand, drives up our confidence and satisfaction: we feel encouraged to strive to be our best selves but loved and accepted for who we are.
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