Shock, disbelief, pain. The world just changed. It really did.
Time slows down, thoughts speed up, and we instantly start trying to understand, trying to process. “How…?”, “why….?”, “how come…?” are only a few of the questions that cycle in our minds, as we try to somehow make sense of things.
Answer questions, and go slow: Once your child knows you understand their experience, don’t be afraid to answer their questions. Tell the truth, but keep your answers short, and pause. The pause gives your child a chance to absorb the information in a bite size chunk. It also allows you to see what they do with the information, and where to go next. When in doubt, continue to convey empathy.