Huffington Post – 6 Signs Your Husband Has Checked Out Of Your Marriage



As frustrated as we all can be in relationships, it isn’t always obvious where you or your partner stands. Huffington Post asked me for signs your husband has checked out of your marriage, and I was very pleased to weigh in about joy (or lack of it) for this great piece. Other signs to watch for include stonewalling, escalating irritability and criticism, and avoidance to include increased substance abuse.

Like with any sign, paying attention to it is the most important step in checking back in with each other, and rekindling the connection that might be missing.

You aren’t as playful as you used to be:

Every couple has bad days, but for the most part, you should get the feeling that your spouse genuinely enjoys spending time with you. If the sense of playfulness is gone and your spouse rarely laughs with you, it could be a sign that one of you has pulled away, said Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.

“Ask yourself honestly if your partner is happy hanging out with you, or if he’s just going through the motions, in a distant, disengaged way,” she said.

If that’s the case, one of the best things to do is to introduce laughter back into your marriage, in whatever way you can, Clark said.

“Tell him a funny story, get tickets and go to a comedy club, watch a rerun of his favorite sitcom. Get laughing to break the ice and see what happens,” she said. “Reconnecting is the key.”


Alicia H. Clark, PsyD


  1. shanika1981 on November 26, 2018 at 6:50 am

    I have a family history of depression and have experienced and dealt with it myself. I tried medication. It didn’t work. So I got off of it. Now I’m using diet, exercise and self-help techniques to beat it. I want love and a relationship so bad that I am damn well determined to “fix” myself and not let it interfere with my relationships.

    • Alicia H. Clark, PsyD on January 4, 2019 at 3:30 pm

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, and so glad to hear your determination to fight your depression. Your resolve to take control where you can will take you far in finding happiness. Wishing you all the best!