Huffington Post – If You Can’t Answer These 8 Questions, You’re Not Over Your Ex

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How do you know when you’ve really, and truly moved on? It’s tough sometimes to know. Huffington Post asked me to consider the most important questions someone should be able to answer when they are ready, and available, to move onto a new relationship. Answer these questions to know you’ve moved on.

4. Can you watch “The Notebook” without bawling your eyes out?

You’ve made immense progress on the moving-on front when you can watch a romantic movie and not fall apart, said Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.

“The key here is to be able to enjoy the story and feel the emotions of it without exclusively associating the storyline with your ex or stirring up old feelings in a way that leaves you pining for them,” Clark said. “It’s a great litmus test for how much you have moved on.”

7. Are you over the Facebook-stalking phase?

If the first thing you do when you log onto Facebook or Instagram is head to your ex’s page, you’re still devoting too much mental energy to them, Clark said.

“Being curious about someone you were close to is completely normal but too much curiosity can set you back from moving forward with your life,” she said. “The ability to browse Facebook without searching for your ex is a good sign you’re moving forward with your life.”


Alicia H. Clark, PsyD