Few think it is possible to ruin your marriage right before bed, but habits can have powerful effects on how we live our life and govern our relationships. Our bedtime routines are among the most vulnerable to habit since it is the time of the day when we are the most tired, and least likely to exercise effort. But bedtime might be one of the most important times of day for your relationship, and certain habits may be more harmful than good when it comes to maintaining healthy connection.
The Huffington Post asked me to weigh in on dangerous habits of bedtime, and I was pleased to help with this roundup of bedtimes habit to avoid whenever possible. To read the full article, click HERE.
You sleep in separate beds or too large of a bed.
“Too much distance between partners in the bed can create barriers that can feel bigger than they really are. Touch is well known to create feelings of attachment and connection, thanks to its stimulation of the cuddle hormone, oxytocin. The bed can be a natural place to cultivate touch between you, and living too long without it in a relationship can lead to feelings of loneliness.” ― Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.