Huffington Post – 6 Signs You’re Stuck In A Relationship Rut (And How To Get Past It)

It isn’t hard to fall into a relationship rut when you are busy, sometimes even doing all the right things, like providing for the life you both want. But relationship lulls can lead to distance, loneliness, and other risks if you don’t pay attention and take action.

Huffington Post asked me to weigh in on signs your relationship could be falling into a rut, and I was very please to help out with this roundup. To read the full post on Huffington Post, click HERE.


You text more than you talk.

Texting and social media makes communicating so much easier, but it’s no stand-in for a quality conversation.

“If you find yourself texting each other when you are at home together instead of talking to each other, this may be a sign that you relationship with your smartphone is encroaching on your partnership,” said Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.

Your sex life isn’t much to write home about.

You’re hardly alone if your sex life has become humdrum ― or nonexistent. “Sexless marriage” is the top-searched marriage complaint on Google. The search term is three and a half times more common than “unhappy marriage” and eight times more common than “loveless marriage.”

If you’re experiencing a sex rut ― and it’s not due to any physical impediments ― simply trying something new in the bedroom could help, Clark said.

“Routines can find their way into the bedroom, which can promote comfort and closeness, but can rob a relationship of the novelty it needs from time to time,” she said. “Thinking about new ways to physically connect can help introduce novelty that can strengthen your bond.”

For more ideas on how to spice up your sex life, head here.

Alicia H. Clark, PsyD


  1. Jayne on January 7, 2018 at 10:54 pm

    I find your blog helpful, and I look forward to reading more of your material. Thanks for following me on Twitter. I sincerely believe God puts people before you who, either need you or you need them.
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    Aka Jayne Pruiett.

    • Alicia H. Clark, PsyD on March 17, 2018 at 8:57 am

      Thanks Jayne for your kind words. Glad my blog is helpful.