Huffington Post – Should The ‘Other Woman’ Ever Tell A Wife That Her Husband Is Cheating?

Should the other woman ever tell?

When it comes to relationships, few things are as painful as having an affair, or being a relationship with a person who is in another relationship. Sharing love in secret can quickly prove toxic, and the press to bring the truth into the open can be profound.

Huffington Post asked me the difficult questions whether it is ever advisable for the other woman – or man – to disclose the affair to their lover’s longterm partner, and why.

While there are occasions where you might think you are doing your lover’s partner a favor in knowing the truth, more often motives are mixed, and the disclosure can backfire. In general, I advise against such disclosures.

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“Unfortunately, such disclosures seldom yield such satisfaction and may backfire.”Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.

It’s important for the other man or woman to consider their motives for disclosing the affair, stressed Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C. Sometimes, after being spurned or pushed away, affair partners want to strike back or regain power by revealing the relationship. It rarely works in their favor, she said.

“You may want to speak up to punish your lover for staying with their partner, or seek some level of legitimacy for a relationship that has lived too long in the shadows or dismissed,” she said. “Unfortunately, such disclosures seldom yield such satisfaction and may backfire.”

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Alicia H. Clark, PsyD