Dating After a Divorce – Interview

Screen Shot 2015-02-27 at 10.38.03 AMHappy to help out on this piece about common challenges women face in dating after a divorce.

This is a really tough time for so many people. The most important thing is to be gentle with yourself, and look behind you at what you have accomplished – leaving a relationship that wasn’t working. It wasn’t easy, it took courage, and you need to give yourself time to heal. Remember you don’t have to get back into the dating pool right away. It is ok to focus on yourself and find some joy in being alone. Independent. And in control. Focus on yourself, and getting healthy in body and spirit. This is a great time to focus on doing things for yourself you couldn’t do before – don’t be afraid to make a list, and take action.

Putting energy into being your best self will pay off in confidence earned. Knowing yourself, and what you need, will also help you make better choices in your next relationship. Let confidence, health, and self respect be your calling cards – you don’t need a relationship to be complete, you want a relationship to enrich you. There is nothing more attractive that a woman who takes care of herself, knows what she wants, and is able to be alone.

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Alicia H. Clark, PsyD


  1. Julia on March 8, 2015 at 4:48 pm

    I was totally having a hard time with my divorce , our child was the one who kept us from splitting up , but it couldn’t last any longer . I cried a lot , I felt like nobody needs me , it was terrible . But after a few months I started my recovery period , I read lots of books , I even went to culinary arts college then I started to put efforts and energy into myself , I started to go to gym and during this time the pain was evaporating , one of my close friend advised me to sign in , so to somehow get rid of the solitude . I met a man who had the same situation as mine , then I realized that he has to be my destiny cause too much in common . This is my story , a story of how the weakness converted into a courage and persistence .

    • Alicia H. Clark, PsyD on March 8, 2015 at 5:39 pm

      Hi Julia,

      Thanks for your comment, and sharing your inspiring story. Knowing that healing is possible, and that love can come again when we are brave enough to keep trying, is the kind of message people need to hear when they are struggling after a break up.

      I hope you continue to find connection and love in your new relationship.