Huffington Post – Is It Ever OK To Check Your Partner’s Emails? Therapists Weigh In.

So is it ever ok to check your partner’s email? I was very pleased to join other experts to weigh in.

To read the full article, click HERE.

What if you do find something?

If you turn up incriminating evidence, the rules of engagement may need to change, said Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist and author of Hack Your Anxiety: How to Make Anxiety Work for You in Life, Love, and All That You Do.

In some relationships, both partners might mutually decide to give each other permission to go through each other’s phones moving forward.

“In rebuilding trust in a relationship after an affair, I have had betraying partners share email passwords and phone codes for a time so their betrayed partner can check on them anytime they feel the need,” she said. “Betrayed people understandably want to take back control, and determine for themselves what they can trust and what they can’t.”

In post-infidelity situations, Clarke said that the “‘trust but verify’ strategy can be useful in helping clients rebuild the trust.”

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Alicia H. Clark, PsyD